Making
love is the ultimate form of expression in a relationship. There
are ways to make love without having sexual intercourse while sharing emotional
intimacy. Stimulating the mind can be just as much of an aphrodisiac as the act
of sex itself. In relationships we require connections on many levels.
HERE ARE 5 WAYS YOU CAN MAKE LOVE TO
YOUR PARTNER WITHOUT HAVING SEX:
01. BUILD A STRONG FRIENDSHIP.
Good relationships don’t just happen
over night. They require mutual love, trust and respect. Creating a strong
foundation as friends, who share everything, will enhance sexual pleasures at a
later time in your union. The act of allowing and acceptance is a beautiful
bond in human sexuality. Feeling safe is foreplay. When you know your partner
has your back and your best intentions you feel happy.
This leads to the release of the love
hormone called oxytocin. Oxytocin creates a sense
of happiness and well-being. This hormone is associated with empathy
and trust, therefore releasing even more feelings of love and security in a
relationship. Friends don’t require sex. They require acknowledgment,
understanding and mutual admiration. You cultivate love through the depth of a
strong friendship.
02. CONNECT THROUGH FOOD.
There is something arousing when
someone you love cooks for you. To have a meal prepared with love is a true
turn on. Women love men who cook. And it is said that the way to a man’s heart
is through his stomach. Even if you cannot cook, just picking out a meal at a
restaurant and enjoying the moment together is enough to feel good. Food
connects us through cultures, heritage, and social events. We need it for
health and fueling our bodies.
Try taking a cooking class together.
Make dessert for one another. Turn off all phones, get a glass of wine and
enjoy the culinary arts. The simple act of feeding is stimulating and arousing.
“Food is symbolic to love when words are inadequate.” ~ Dr. Alan D. Wolfelt
03. FIND HOBBIES AND ACTIVITIES TO DO
TOGETHER.
Share a bucket list of things you
want to do with each other. Finding ways to interact outside of the bedroom is
romantic. You can hike in the rain, chase a sunset, or take an art class in
town. Make time to do the things that you like to do alone and share them with
your partner. Teach each other new things. Read to one another. Have playtime
and a picnic in the park. Go to a baseball game. Go roller skating and return
to places that you enjoyed in your youth.
Being silly and laughing with each
other is precious. Sharing these parts of yourself enhances your emotional
connection. Exercising together can be sexy. You are interacting in a physical
level that also mimics the actions of sex. Your union will be stronger because
you are sharing what you love.
04. BE VULNERABLE AND OPEN UP ABOUT
YOUR DREAMS AND FEARS.
Research professor for the University
of Houston, Dr. Brene Brown, has dedicated the past thirteen years to
researching vulnerability, courage and shame. She has found that,“Owning our
story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running
from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as
giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most
vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we
discover the infinite power of our light.” Being able to mentally bond is a
huge release to our emotional and physical bodies. Ask questions about the past
and present.
Get to know each other by breaking
down the barriers of embarrassment and shame. Be courageous with one another
about those things that scare you. To fully give of yourself to another
requires the expansion of vulnerability. It forces you to put down your walls
and give all of yourself.
05. BE AFFECTIONATE.
Cuddling, kissing, snuggling and
hugging are all forms of physical connections that are needed in relationships.
There are also ways of mentally stimulating your partner with a love letter, a
handmade note, or just a post-it note on a mirror. Sending a sweet playful text
during the day creates a feeling of sentimental devotion.
There are ways to be physical without
having intercourse. A back massage, a nice foot rub, or even the stroking of
your partner’s arm while watching television is enough to send those hormones
into the love canal. We feel loved when we are touched. We feel wanted when we
receive kind words of encouragement from a partner. Affection is a point of
contact that enhances emotional, spiritual and physical relief.
There is a difference between sex and
making love. We have sex to satisfy the physical needs while making love
satisfies the soul and emotional desires. Making love without sex removes the
carnal need to survive because sex satisfies a lustful hunger of emptiness in
us. Taking care of your partner requires a deeper connection. We nurture and
grow through these unions while allowing love to be the vehicle that takes us
there.
