By: Rania Naim
01. Your ‘type’ changes drastically as time
goes by. Especially in your mid to late twenties. You start looking for deeper
and more solid qualities like responsibility, honesty and integrity instead of
fun, charming and super attractive. You begin to appreciate a partner you can
talk to about meaningful things, about your problems, about your family and
about your work because as you grow up, the things that matter to you change
drastically too.
02. Finding the right career is more important
than getting married. Finding the right career for you is the most rewarding
gift you can give yourself. It will give you something to look forward to and
will always motivate you to grow and learn new things. It will make you a
better person and a happier person and you will not have to depend on love to
make you happy.
03. Modern dating sucks but it really teaches
you a lot. Modern dating sucks but with every dating disaster that happens to
you, you learn one more thing about yourself and about the person you are
looking for. You also learn how to love yourself and you learn that sometimes
you have to choose being alone instead of being with someone who is not
treating you right or someone who doesn’t want to define the relationship.
04. Invest in a few good friends. Your friends
will be your support system forever. The better friends you have, the easier
your life will be. Good friends will get you through almost anything in life.
Pick them wisely and you will always find someone to lean on when life gets
rough. They will be your main backbone.
05. Don’t settle. Don’t date someone just
because you’ve been single for so long or because all your friends are married.
Don’t stay in a relationship that is not good for you because it’s comfortable
and don’t hold on to someone who doesn’t love you the way you deserve to be
loved.
06. You have to know who you are before
getting married. Getting married when you’re in an unsteady place in your life
makes you count on the relationship as the main source of your happiness and
makes you follow your partner’s footsteps without stopping to ask yourself if
this is what you really want.
07. Kids are not the answer. Having kids does
not mean you secured a spot in marriage paradise, if anything, it’s the
ultimate test to determine how strong the marriage is. People who have kids
when they’re not ready are really just setting their marriage up for disaster.
08. You will not ‘lose’ your married friends.
I think this is the biggest misconception – that you will not be talking to
your friends who got married. Once they get past the honeymoon phase,
everything will be back to normal and they will still be a phone call away.
09. You can make things happen alone. You can
get your dream job or buy that house or travel to this country without anyone’s
help or approval. When you are growing up without being committed to someone,
you truly have the world in your hands and you can just do whatever you want
and become whoever you want. Being independent is a wonderful thing that will
make you rich in so many ways. In this day and age, being single is actually a
privilege — depending on the way you look at it.
10. Marriage is also not the answer. I
mentioned earlier that kids are not the answer but marriage is also not the
answer. If you didn’t learn to find your happiness alone, you won’t find it in
your marriage, if you didn’t learn to love yourself when you’re single, you
won’t love yourself when you’re married, if you didn’t find yourself before
marriage, you won’t find yourself after marriage.
People are told that marriage is what makes them complete but the truth
is nothing can complete someone but themselves, their experiences, their
passions, their hearts, their intelligence and their strength.
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