Kim’s sister Kay was murdered by
her husband five years ago, and she’s keeping her memory alive by speaking out
against domestic violence with these heartbreaking lessons.
"He thought
he could keep you dead and gone and silent and in the ground, but you rise up
every. single. day". —Kim Sisto Robinson
My sister was murdered by her
husband on May 26, 2010. The world shook and darkened. Here’s what I’ve learned
in the 5 years since her murder.
01: Crying outrageously with
snot running down your face is completely normal.
02: The
soul leaves the body before you do.
03: Even
when you’re not listening, God still whispers your name.
04: Writing
words and sentences transforms the spirit into something fierce.
05: Drinking
a bottle of red wine a day helps numb the pain, (but it doesn’t last)
06: You
“Do Not” get over missing and mourning a loved one; you only incorporate the
loss, one way or another, into your survival.
07: When
your sister is murdered, it’s not like losing an arm or a leg or a foot, it’s
like losing a heart, a soul, a childhood, an identity, and your own blood.
08: Staying
silent about domestic abuse is like signing your own death certificate. Don’t
sign it.
09: Have
you heard about the sixth sense? USE IT!
10: As
Maya Angelou says, “When somebody tells you who they are the very first time,
you’d better f****** believe them.” ( she may not have said f****** ).
11: You
cannot, I Repeat, CANNOT, change another person. You can only change yourself.
12: Darkness
resides within insidious corners.
13: The
people you least expect to become angels will grow wings and fly directly into
your grief.
14: Family
and friends are your oxygen.
15: God
Is Not dead.
16: The
Devil is not dead. He may be sitting at your kitchen table.
17: Death
is not the end.
18: Even
though my sister’s body is in the ground, she rises from the soil, the marble,
the cemetery every. single. day.
19: There
are worst things than dying. For example, living without purpose.
20: Going
insane tests a marriage to the max. Mr. Liverpool Stayed!
21:Light
overpowers darkness.
22: Never
go a day without telling & showing others how you feel about them.
23: When
another person makes you feel “Less Than,” this is abuse. Don’t kid yourself.
24: The
purpose of life is not to serve yourself, but to serve others.
25: Your
emptiness cannot be filled by the universe.
26: You
should only surround yourself with God loving, life changing, kick ass people
who make you bloom, grow, love more, learn abundantly, and flourish often.
27: A
simple smell can put me over the edge. For example, sugar cookies baking in
December.
28: Coming
undone is not the definition of weakness.
29: Not
acknowledging another person’s pain is like inserting salt inside an open wound.
30: We
are given a voice to utilize it, share it, connect with others, and tell our
stories. ( Do Not Stop telling your stories, darlings.)
31: NEVER.
Evvvvvvvver. allow another person to disrespect, belittle, demean, minimize, or
bully you into what you were meant to be.
32: In
the midst of black and claws and fangs and fog, there is sun and soft breezes
and warm kisses and flickers of light.
33: Nobody…In
a million years will ever replace my sister.
34: This
earth is not my home.
35: No
matter what you’ve been through, you have the POWER to change the world
Exactly. Where. You. Are. Standing.
36: The
deeper you love, the harder you fall, but I’d do it over again and again and
again…
—–Darling,
Reader, how are
you making a difference? What are
some lessons you’ve learned along the way?
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