Losing friends may sound like a bad thing at
first, but in reality, it’s not bad at all.
It’s normal that friendships evolve over
time. If you began to notice that you’re keeping regular contact with fewer
people than you did a decade ago, there’s nothing to worry about. In fact, it’s
probably a good thing. As we age, we tend to stay friends with those who really
understand us. A sincere and deep connection doesn’t come around often, but
chances are that people who are still your friends are very loyal and that your
friendship stood the test of time.
Here are some things you might experience as
you get older that affect the ways in which you view interpersonal connections
and value friendship in life. These will also help you to understand that
losing friends is completely natural and in most cases a good thing.
You don’t tolerate insincerity anymore
When you were young, you were probably much
more willing to turn a blind eye to the faults of people you met, choosing
instead to focus on other aspects like their vitality or personality. As you
grow older, you’ll have less patience for insincerity and shallow
relationships. Age teaches us that it’s much better to have few sincere
friendships, than a ton of superficial ones. An honest conversation is your
priority in interpersonal relationships now – and that’s a good thing!
You’ve got less time
As you grow older, your time for socializing
will simply shrink. It might have to do with professional demands or starting a
family – the point is, you’ll simply have less time on your hands and chances
are that with age you’ll learn to properly value it. That’s why you’ll choose
not to waste it on people whose company you don’t really enjoy that much. You’d
rather save your time for people who matter to you and for relationships that
you find rewarding. Losing friends that don’t matter so much isn’t a big deal
in this case.
Your friendships deepened with time
Throughout your life, you probably saw many
friends drift away at the first sign of trouble. Good thing is, as you age, you
become surrounded by friends who were at your side through the good and the
bad. You shared many experiences and that’s how you created a deep bond. You
don’t need anything more than this in your life, so it’s only natural that you
stick to your friendships even more.
You’ve got more experience on your back
Over the years, you’ve learned how sometimes
it’s alright to rely on your friends and other times to provide support
yourself. This experience shows you who you can really depend on, helping you
to decide into which friendships you should invest your time. It’s likely that
only a few people will make it to the final cut – and for a good reason. Your
life experience taught you about the value of interpersonal relations, so
you’re able to tell who deserves your attention and time.
You’re more protective
As you get older, you might grow more
protective of personal information and choose to share it with a select group
of people. You no longer want to expose your personal life to everyone, but
rather talk things over with your friends who you know you can rely on in any
situation.
You lack the energy to form new connections
When you were young, you had all the time and
energy to go to parties and mingle with lots of new people in one night. These
days, you probably see how fleeting and superficial all these relationships
were. You have no patience for that anymore. Rather than go out and meet new
people, you prefer to visit one of your friends and share a glass of good wine
together.
Aging leaves less room for relationships that
aren’t sincere or valuable, so it’s only natural that while some friends drift
away, others stay firmly by your side. If you feel that your friend circle has
shrunk over the years, there’s no reason to panic – this is something that
happens to all of us as we grow older and make wiser decisions, including those
about our friendships.
So, as you see, losing friends during your
lifetime isn’t a bad thing at all – it’s just a result of knowing better what
you want in life and becoming more picky with people.
Author Bio: Mary Frenson is a Marketing
Assistant at Checkdirector.co.uk, a new source of information on UK companies.
Mary is always happy to share her marketing ideas and thoughts on business
issues. In her free time, she enjoys handicraft
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